10 Principles for Peace of Mind
By Gajanand Dubey
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that ourway is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do notconform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the rightdirection, our direction. This thinking denies the existence ofindividuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act inexactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because Godwithin them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you willkeep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop illfeelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. Wenurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, developmentof stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury wasdone once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantlyremembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste insuch trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in givingand forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody withoutselfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, butno sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement andwill start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if instriving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth theaggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. Youknow that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, butsometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whosebusiness is only one year old. There are several examples like these ineveryday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life isshaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If youare destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you arenot so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained byblaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere;it will only take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances areyou will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As youdo this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, willmysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every daywe face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidentsthat are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them,we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure themcheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience,inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take moreresponsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done tosatisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loadsthat may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expandingyour external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spendtime in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce thosethoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind willproduce greater peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This isthe highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. Ifyou meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Yourmind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit bygradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think thatthis will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this willincrease your efficiency and you will be able to produce better resultsin less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in thevacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, somethingworthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind.Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn youmore money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement.Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy readingor chanting of God’s name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering ” Should I or shouldn’t I?”Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mentaldebating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to bedone. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn fromyour mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over thepast. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only thatway. Why cry over split milk?